Sunday, January 8, 2012

Lets Talk About.....Words

Words are immensely powerful.  One cruel remark can wound someone for life.  It's all about treating others the way you want to be treated.  (sorry PK...sometimes it comes out when I least expect it...PK=Preacher's Kid for those of you that don't know that one)

The Golden Rule.  You know everyone knows it, no matter what religion they were brought up with, if's just the most human thing you can do.  It solves all problems.  Don't believe me?  Try it.  Ever change someones expression or body language in a second by either saying or doing something they didn't expect?  I bet you have...and I bet you could see it happen, right?  Whether it was a smile or a frown or shock.  It's all about trying to put yourself in the other persons shoes. And we don't do this enough as people, and that's is why there are so many angry, grumpy, unhappy, and just plain bitter people out there.  Its like a negative "pay it forward", an emotional sickness that has a stranglehold on our planet.  How many times has a really mean or uncalled for comment just pissed you off so much that you bit the head of the next person that dared to talk to you?  I know I've been guilty of it. I try harder not to do that, now that I'm in a business where it's considered good form to be rude to me, when I'm just trying to do my job.  (insurance sales)
But those moments don't really ruin a person's life, maybe your day, but not your life.  But words can.

Ever told someone a vision you had of a future together with them and their face doesn't light darkens, and that smile on your face suddenly freezes or starts to mirror their frown of concern?  Been on both sides of that one. Those are the moments when you can wound someone for life.

The easiest way to approach everyone as an equal is to just try to understand that your life, with all it's accomplishments, and failures, is no better or worse than everyone else's.  No One's life is perfect.  No One is happy all the time....or sad.  Everyone's life is a story that you just don't know yet.  So everyone deserves the respect that you feel you deserve.  So before you go out to finish your weekend before your work week starts, or before you head on out to work, think about all the wonderful stories you have yet to meet.  And know the that next person you meet could be your future lover, future in-law, future best friend....or your future worst enemy....depends on how you treat them.  Remember as humans we react.  So make your actions ones that make it impossible for the other person to treat you with anything but love and understanding.  You'll go a lot further in both love and business.

How do you do this?  Well you start by loving yourself, silly.  (and i meant that 'silly' with love. so don't let it ruin your life. ;)